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Submissive Is NOT a Four Letter Word
By Candace Cameron Bure’
(sister of Kirk Cameron)
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Question From A Reader To Candace Cameron Bure’:

“With great interest I've been following your website and reading your advice column here. As a young woman of the same age as you, and with a similar background in acting and upbringing, I've felt best able to relate to your story of seeking out a more truly Christian lifestyle and searching for greater meaning and discipline to my life.

I was just about ready to "make the leap" and seek out some of the resources you'd recommended, when I read something that made me doubt my ability to blend a Christian life with the convictions of equality I've been raised to believe in. Convictions that now, as an elementary school teacher, I try to pass on and stress to my students each and every day as I attempt to help them build their confidence and sense of self.

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Are You Being Deceived ?

You gave advice to a woman who was trying to come to an agreement with her husband about homeschooling. You wrote that in the end, the husband is the leader of the family and should make the final decision.

I was raised to believe that men and women are equals and should act as partners when married. I also believe this demonstrates to children that women shouldn't be submissive and that their opinions are as worthy as that of males. I know that to suddenly change my way of thinking that my partner's opinions should be the final ones regardless of compromise would leave me feeling disrespected and unsatisfied, and I would hope through compromise my partner would never feel this way in return, either.

If it is true that it is suggested that men dominate the "power" role in the modern family, I'm not sure if my yearning to walk a similar path to your's is right for me after all, and I feel more confused than ever. I have put acting behind me and am enjoying my career as a teacher, and look forward to marriage. Will it be possible for me to dedicate my life to Christ if I don't feel "right" putting my partner on an uneven plane as myself?

Thanks if you are able to help me sort this out.”

______________________________________

Candace Cameron Bure's Answer:

Many women in today's culture struggle with this very thought and subject, so you're not alone. It is our society that's got it messed up and has confused us all. Just because you were raised a certain way and brought up to believe certain things, it doesn't mean they are right. Let's look at the Bible for answers.

Marriage is an equal partnership in that BOTH roles, husband and wife, are equally important. But, they are not designed to be the SAME role. The Bible says, "For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman: but the woman for the man" (1Corinthians 11:8-9). In Genesis, God created Adam and said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a him an help meet for him". (Gen. 2:18) See, we were CREATED to be a helper to our husbands.

"Submissive" is not a four letter word. Today's culture would have us believe it is. That is straight from the mouth of the enemy. Being submissive to my husband in no way makes me feel disrespected or unsatisfied. I haven't turned into a door mat that gets walked all over. Just the opposite! As a submissive wife, I have a great responsibility and role in my marriage. Yes, I'm the second in command but does that make my role less worthy? No.

Think of it in military terms. You have a commanding officer and a soldier. There is a chain of command. Does that make the soldier's role less important? Of course it doesn't. If everyone was a commanding officer, there would be chaos! Same thing in your household. Having two heads of authority doesn't work by design. Once a conflict arises, you will both stand on your principles until someone compromises, or worse--not, and the other will feel defeated. Most likely it will be your husband who'll do the compromising because it will be easier to give in than listen to his unhappy wife. This cycle will continue on in your marriage, only to have your husband feel he's incapable of making good decisions for your family, that you don't respect him, and ultimately find himself looking for a woman who will. I know that sounds harsh, but why do you think the divorce rate gets higher and higher every year?

I take joy in serving my husband. He does not take advantage of me. I don't become his slave. I help him because it pleases the Lord, and ultimately, THAT is who I care about most. When I love, honor, respect and help build my husband into the man God wants him to be for our home, he has so much love for me in return. He WANTS my opinion, he trusts me, he takes my advice and asks what I think on just about every subject. This trust has been given because of my attitude when it comes to his decision making. We talk, we share, he knows what's important to me. He ALWAYS takes that into consideration. I'll tell you, most of the time, my husband will yield to my direction on the subject because he values it so. But, when he believes a different decision to be right, I allow him to make that final decision and not say anything more about it. I don't let the disappointment show on my face for the next few days. I don't whine and complain about not getting my way. And I CERTAINLY don't rub it in his face if my way would have been the better way! I'm right there by his side to help him make a better decision the next time around. (Trust me... when things like that happen, they'll listen to you even more next time!)

Ultimately, my husband is responsible for all the decisions made in our home before God. He'll stand before God to give an account of our family. That's a weight lifted from my shoulders and yet such a hefty responsibility for my husband. I want to do everything possible to see us succeed together.

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God" (1Cor. 11:3) Do you see the chain of command? Even Christ is subject to one higher than himself--God! Why then, should we feel that we deserve to be equal with everyone else? Are we not subject to Christ as well? Again, this is society's view that's got us all confused. I choose to allow my husband to lead because I want to do it God's way. I gave up "my rights" when I gave my life over to the Lord.

I could write pages and pages on this subject, but there just isn't enough time in the day. This answer is not complicated because scripture is abundantly clear when it comes to the role of being a wife. Read Titus 2. If you are seeking God and His ways.... you can't pick and choose what makes you feel good or more comfortable. God is a God of Truth and has written His ways and ultimate design for our lives in the Bible. While the subject seems to be a stumbling block for you in knowing the God who created you, it's clearly an attack to prevent another soul from being saved. Before you give up on a right relationship with God because of this subject, seek the scriptures. They are TRUTH. God can open your eyes spiritually if you'll ask Him.

My recommended reading for you is: Created to Be His Help Meet by Debbie Pearl and Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free by Nancy Leigh DeMoss.

May God give you the clarity you need to know His ways.

Candace Cameron Bure’

Response to “Submissive Is NOT a Four Letter Word” from Female Age 26, KY

What a great response, Candace. I would add from my personal experience in both fighting and conceding the idea of submission, that the greatest struggle that I had, was not really with the idea of submission after all. My struggle, and I think the struggle of many women out there, is trusting that God really loves us enough to provide for our needs in every way when we submit to His commands. While studying the book of Ruth for an example of what it meant to be a godly woman, I was struck by the first statements that Boaz spoke to Ruth. He recognized her service to her mother-in-law and spoke the blessings of God to her. This implied to me that he recognized that she had VALUE to God, which I believe is why he was so careful to treat her with respect. It is hard to believe sometimes, especially if you have been in wrong or sinful relationships like I had been in before meeting my husband, that God really makes godly men like that still - but He does! What a blessing that is to have, and I have to say that I have found that submission is no weak position - rather it is strength under control. The word helper or helpmeet is really a translation of a word that means something more like "life saver" or at least implies a person who has the back of a commrade, so your

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military metaphor was maybe even more dead on than you might have known. I found personally, that once I realized that God loved me enough to provide when I obey, that a godly husband makes all the difference (and listen up every single and searching woman out there - That man is worth the wait!!), and that through godly submission I show God's strength in me and not my weakness (as the world professes) - God has been able to work in my life and give me freedom that I did not know was possible before. Is there still struggle at times? Sure, but it wouldn't be called a battle if there wasn't a fight, and my marriage - more importantly, my relationship with God, is worth fighting for!

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